His argument is that equality somehow “lowered” the price of sex, because as women have more economic resources of their own, they slut-shame each other less.
okay well first, sex shouldn’t be fucking commodified, it’s not money – but alas, in a patriarchal, capitalistic world nothing is worth talking about unless it has value to be traded for something else. Nevermind that it’s a sharing of energy between two people… what kind of leverage can it have? Anyway, this is where Amanda really lays the smack down:
He claims married women aren’t into it, but also that single women aren’t into casual sex. Commitment doesn’t make us horny. Newness doesn’t make us horny. It appears nothing makes us horny.
I wonder where he gets this impression? He should come talk to me and my lady friends for a day…
If that’s the case, then we should actually see sex rates plummet, and not just in marriage. Actually, we should see marriage rates plummet, too, if marriage is simply an exchange of vagina for economic stability. If women just aren’t into sex, and they don’t need to exchange sex for goods and services, which is the traditional reason Baumeister says we have sex, then why wouldn’t we just give it up? That’s actually how markets work.
not only does this guy not know anything about women and our sex drives, he’d make a horrible economist. And probably a horrible lover. How are you going to please a partner if you think they’re only in it so you’ll provide them with economic stability (that they’re increasingly not needing as they gain “power” in the present system)? Did he never take a biology class? Sex ed? He probably either went to public school or religious school. Is he unaware that our orgasms are in many ways better than his… we get to ride the waves, baby! So, in summary:
The feminist theory about sex is probably still the better one: Women, like men, enjoy sex. In a patriarchal system, women’s bodies are seen as objects to control, and women’s sexual desires threaten the system because women will make choices based on what they, as women want, and not what men want them to do. So women’s sexuality is systematically surpressed. Women enforce the rules because the system penalizes them for not doing so, but if women collectively stop enforcing the rules, i.e. become feminists, then the system collapses. And women, liberated from patriarchal domination of their sexuality, start having the same kind of variety of sex (casual, commited, somewhere in between) that men have always preserved for themselves alone
I think he’s another man who’s been made uncomfortable by female autonomy. Hopefully he can catch up to the 21st century and have the epic, mindblowing kind of sex feminists can have 😉