Don’t like normally-functioning vaginas? Then you should be disallowed from fucking them.

Posted on September 5, 2011

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now this is something nobody wants to (real) talk about: period sex. I will be the first one to admit that i’m not a fan, but it has more to do with the fact that my uterus generally feels like a fiery pit from hell and the mess factor (showers are an awesome way around that) than the fact that i think it’s “icky” – i’m also happy to report that none of the individuals (men included) that i’ve been with were particularly grossed out by vaginas or blood or even boning when the two overlap once a month.  I have good taste what I can i say. So, while I personally am not a fan, this blog post (In Defense of Period Sex — Feministe) is epic, and cuts through the bullshit around the topic.  My favorite parts:

Do you have a right to refuse to have period sex because you think bleeding vaginas be nasty? Of course. And do I have a right to leave your ass and think less of you because of that? You betcha. Because it does come down to misogyny, basically — most pre-menopausal people with uteruses and vaginas who are old enough to consent to sex bleed once a month. Vaginas do not exist as sterile, liquid-free penis receptacles (although I hear there’s a toy for that). Lots of healthy vaginas expel blood. And if you think that’s gross, well, maybe spend your naked extracurricular time with someone who is vagina-free…

Basically, dudes who have sex with women and think period sex is disgusting are the brothers-in-badnews-sexytime with people who think oral sex is gross. Don’t like normally-functioning vaginas? Then you should be disallowed from fucking them.

yup.  And don’t even get me started on people who think going down on a girl is gross.  Or how we’re all socialized to think the vajayjay is a scary weird place – thank the universe for Eve Ensler and The Vagina Monologues for getting countless numbers of women, both young and old, to confront the mind colonization that goes on in this world. Also thank the Universe for sex-positive therapists and other workers in the field.

now cue everyone (even feminists) saying “it doesn’t have to be misogyny!” Well, I for one think until we fully deconstruct a notion we cannot be sure.

Either way, vaginas are awesome. Period. (ha!)

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